The Story Behind the Birth of KaradaNaoru (4)— What I Learned Through Five Years of Continuing Workshops
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- May 27
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Accompanying a Mother from Hyogo
Yesterday, a client came all the way from Hyogo Prefecture.
She had booked her very first Zoom session with me the previous week, and after feeling satisfied with the results, she decided to visit in person this time together with her mother.
Her mother, in her late seventies, had recently become unsteady on her feet and had already suffered two falls.
She had bolts in her back and metal implants in her hip. In many ways, her body had been through a great deal.
And yet, her complexion was bright, and she still carried a strong sense of vitality.
I worked on both of them, offering treatment as well as various suggestions regarding posture and body alignment.
As they were leaving, her mother quietly said:
“I’m really glad I came.”
For a practitioner, those words mean everything.
What Five Years of Monthly Workshops Taught Me
I believe much of this realization has come from the monthly continuing workshop I’ve been hosting for years with a core group of participants.
Every month, while members come and go, many continue attending regularly.
The workshops are not only about techniques and bodywork, but also about philosophy — how we view the body, healing, and relationships.
Unlike a one-time treatment session where “the problem is fixed and it’s over,” these gatherings have continued every month for five or six years.
The depth becomes entirely different.
And because of that, I myself have learned far more than I ever expected.
The Relationship Between the One Who Heals and the One Being Healed
I now feel that the idea of one person “healing” another can easily become arrogant.
Likewise, the idea of one person “teaching” another can also carry a certain conceit.
Ideally, the relationship should remain flat and neutral.
The person teaching also learns through teaching.
The person learning also teaches through their own experiences and awareness.
Unless both sides benefit and grow together, the relationship cannot truly last.
Why That Workshop Fell Apart in Six Months
There was once a workshop held by a certain practitioner I used to study under.
It collapsed within half a year.
Looking back, I think I understand why.
Since then, I’ve treated every attitude and behavior I witnessed there as a lesson in what not to become.
I do not force people.
I do not speak in absolutes.
I avoid negative, fear-based language.
And I never pressure participants emotionally.
What I value instead is creating a relaxed and enjoyable atmosphere where people can simply be themselves.
Even small things matter.
For example, extending sessions unnecessarily and causing participants to miss their last train — I now see that as completely unacceptable.
Not Controlling People Through Fear
“If you don’t do this, terrible things will happen.”
Looking back, that way of thinking was a form of conditioning — perhaps even a kind of brainwashing.
The troubling part was that she genuinely believed it herself.
Of course, in reality, nothing happened.
There are many people in this world who try to control others by amplifying fear.
That is precisely why I want the spaces I create to be different.
Painful Experiences Eventually Return as Something Good
When I think about it now, much of what I do today may simply be a reaction to the unpleasant experiences I once went through myself.
But perhaps that is not such a bad thing.
Because painful experiences, disappointments, and difficult memories can all be transformed through the filter of one’s own life.
They can be purified, refined, and eventually returned to the world as something meaningful.
And if we can believe that, then perhaps most hardships in life become far easier to overcome.
▼ About KaradaNaoru
The body does not exist independently on its own.
Human relationships, environment, emotions, physical spaces, and the way a person lives and exists in the world — all of these are deeply connected to one’s condition.
After working with more than 3,000 people, this is what I have come to feel more strongly than ever.
I offer in-person sessions at my Meguro salon in Tokyo, as well as online support for those living farther away.
“I no longer know where else to go.”
If you feel that way, perhaps KaradaNaoru can become the place you finally arrive at.
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