“Why People Who Are Relied Upon Too Much Often Carry Pain”

M was someone who had attended one of my workshops in Los Angeles.

She had also brought her son, who struggled with a chronic health condition, to see me a couple of times.

I believe it all started at one of the free workshops.

At the time, she had apparently been suffering from neck pain, but after a short session, the discomfort improved significantly. Since then, she began to trust my work.

Some time later, after I had returned to Japan, I received a request from her for a Zoom session.

She explained that she had suddenly experienced a sharp pain in her side, so intense that she could barely stand.

Eventually, she had no choice but to call an ambulance and was taken to the hospital.

In the United States, calling an ambulance is a very serious matter.

What struck me most was that even after spending six hours undergoing tests in intensive care, the doctors still could not determine the cause.

Afterward, she went to chiropractic treatment about three times a week, but nothing improved.

That was when she contacted me.

The moment I saw her on Zoom, the first thing I felt was:

“Something is stuck.”

And not just one thing.

It felt as though countless “emotional fragments” from other people were lodged throughout her body, especially around her side.

Of course, this is not a medical explanation.

But after years of observing people’s bodies, there are moments when I strongly feel:

“This person is carrying far too much that does not belong to them.”

M was an extremely kind person.

The kind of person others naturally rely on.

Someone people confide in easily.

She took her family’s problems and the concerns of those around her very seriously.

“Being relied upon” sounds positive at first glance.

But I think there are times when being relied upon too much becomes a burden.

In truth, each person is responsible for living their own life.

Each person must face their own issues.

No single person is meant to carry the emotional weight of everyone around them.

Of course, supporting one another is important.

But support and emotional overburdening are not the same thing.

At that moment, I began removing those “stuck” sensations from her body one by one.

It felt almost as though I were pulling them out by the roots.

Then M looked startled and asked:

“What is happening?”

And a moment later, she said:

“The pain is gone…”

She sounded less joyful than genuinely shocked.

Later, I told her something important.

From now on,

she needed to be careful not to become overly relied upon.

She needed to stop placing her own care last.

And even when it came to her son, she needed to see him as a separate individual with his own life and identity.

Love and emotional over-identification are not the same thing.

Once those boundaries begin to blur, people gradually lose the sense of where they themselves end.

The human body is truly mysterious.

Sometimes pain disappears the moment a relationship changes.

And at other times, stress from relationships and environment accumulates until it appears as unexplained physical suffering.

Of course, I do not intend to explain everything through emotions or human relationships.

Reality is never that simple.

But there are certainly cases where:

medical tests show nothing abnormal,

yet the person is undeniably suffering.

That exists in real life.

Lately, I have come to feel more and more strongly that

to observe the body

is also to observe a person’s relationships and way of living.

And perhaps people are allowed

to live a little more

for their own lives alone.